We sat on the couch simultaneously. Just as Quick he began to speak. “It was the divorce.”
He began to rapidly pant, explaining that he had a picture perfect childhood. That is until the divorce.
He recanted “that night.” Oh you’ve had a “that night.” That night will live no matter how much it needs to die. That night will cause weariness no amount of work could and that night will follow you closer than any stalker. King Xerxes had a “that night” which is recorded in the Biblical book of Esther and the Persian records. Jesus had a “that night” in a garden called Gethsemane.
As I sat and listened to him describe the events of that night, a study I did from my teens crept back at such a relevant time.
Usually in a discussion one person speaks and the other is thinking of the perfect answer, relevant statistics or a robotic like answer.
The Hebrew word for discussion is דרך and it’s defined as a journey, or road we travel. So conversation isn’t about having all the right answers or proving point. Conversation is about a journey we take together.
So sitting on this couch with a teary eyed adult I realized I had to throw out my robotic answers and feel good statistics and do more than listen and talk…I needed to walk.
Conversation is less about talking and more about walking.
While caught up in the story I sat on his childhood bed, Spiderman sheets and listened to what his parents said. I felt it… It hit me.
Discussion is journey…
I then could speak to him in a real and raw way because I didn’t hear a story that night, I walked a road with him.
Some of your most powerful conversations will be the ones with the least words spoken.
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